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Sometimes physicians say the most incredible things to us while we are under their care. I truly believe that they honestly just don't comprehend how some of what they have to say is received by the patient. Please use this message board to share some of the "incredible" things that doctors have said to you. Perhaps a doctor or two will wander by and recognize the statement and stop saying it. Click on "Sign the Guestbook" below to post an incredible statement a doctor has made to you.

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December 24th 2012
06:32:44 PM
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Veronica

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I'm 23 years old and have multiple fibroids. I went to my gynecologist and had a pap smear. He had a student with him (i didn't mind...at first). He was mainly talking to the student about my condition and didn't even bother telling me anything that was going on. When me or my mom asked any questions, he ignored us until he felt like answering. At the end he told me "I can't believe you let it get this far.' Really?!?! I didn't think I would end up having fibroids especially at my age. He also told me that if he tried to take the fribroids out, i would bleed out and end up getting a hysterectomy. He told me I should get a UAE. I went to the medical center where I am supposed to get the procedure done. The doctor said i was a tough case because of my age. He said i should wait it out. With this constant pain and bleeding. I'd rather not. He told me my fibroids weren't too big but my gynecologist said they were huge. I want to do the UAE but I'm scared of the complications that might arise. I want a second opinion. my gynecologist gave me no peace of mind about my condition and I was not satisfied with his "diagnosis". So confused.

How did this make you feel?  

Sad, not cared about. I really want this nightmare to end. I wish these fibroids could disappear.

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August 17th 2011
08:46:41 PM
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christine

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I went to a walk in clinic for a pap smear because i didn't trust my regular dr. (whole other story) This male gyno from india looked at the questionnaire i filled out at what i assume was the number of people i had slept with (4 at the time, i was 20) and smirked. I felt immediately uneasy.

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For the first pap ever, the one he did hurt. When he called me back about the results, he said i was positive for hpv and that i should come in to discuss my options. There were no options just disdain and silence. The ******* sat at his desk filling out paper work. Looking over the lab results, i asked if i had all these strands listed or if the test just wasn't specific. he completely ignored me! when i inquired again more firmly he said "all" as tough i was annoying him still mulling over his papers. i knew i couldn't have all 15 or so types of hpv. i had never had one abnormal pap before. he wanted to schedule me for a LEEP procedure the next day, insisting the hpv was advanced, insinuating cancer. i told him i would consult my regular gyno. When i did she (reg gyno) ordered a colloscopy to physically look at my cervix. There was not one abnormal cell and my pap smear from her also came out negative. (two days later mind you) she didn't understand where his test results came from. when i asked about the list of types of hpv she said that test doesn't differentiate so it lists them all. what a **** that doctor was. Side note. my friend with hpv got the LEEP done and now has had two miscarriages due to her uterus inability to hold the weight of a baby.

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March 6th 2011
07:23:53 AM
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Ruth

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One gyn that I saw said that yes I have a fibroid and a 12 week size uterus. Long story short I can't afford to have surgery with her (the best in this area) because I have no insurance. I went to another dr and she told me that my periods were normal, yet I said they last over a week and I pass tissue like substances every time I use the restroom. She also said I don't have a fibroid because fibroids are small and would not grow up into my abdomen where clearly there is a very hard mass that can be felt beside my navel. She wants me to fill out a period chart for 2 months to bring back to her, I guess my words to her were not good enough that my periods are super crazy heavy, very long and very painful.
She also said that my weight, since I am overweight, would also cause my heavy periods.

How did this make you feel?  

Very Angry and very Frustrated. Why is it that as a person who knows her own body, a dr doesn't believe the words that come out of our mouths? Doctors think they know it all and their word is gold. I am done having children so a hysterectomy and removal of my last ovary is fine with me because I just want all this to stop. I feel like I am pregnant and even told this dr this. I feel like I am carrying a block in my stomach. I just want all the heavy bleeding and pain and discomfort to go away and be ok so I can enjoy my 4 kids. I really can't stand a doctor who thinks just because they went to school that they know my body better than I know it. I have lived with it for 36 years and I know there is something wrong.

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May 21st 2008
06:09:44 PM
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Pat

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He smuggly walked into the examining room... didn't even say hello. He took position behind the instrument tray as if he were a God at a podium and said "You need a Hysterctomy and while I'm at it I'm going to take out your ovaries because you don't need them anymore". I beg your pardon? I'm fond of my body parts, like my sexuality and I'm not going to take this laying down!!! (Pun not intended.) Instinctive red flags went up. He wanted to do a total hysterectomy with no further discussion... no alternatives... just remove ALL thats feminine because arrogant Dr. Slice & Dice wanted a quick & easy way to make $$$$.

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I wanted to respond with "Let's just cut off your penis and oh, while I'm at it I'll cut off your balls too because you won't need them any more". But I didn't. I left the office in tears. Later, anger replaced the shock & fear and I did my research, selected a different doctor, had an ablation instead. I know an ablation procedure isn't the answer for everyone but I urge all of you women to question any hysterectomy, trust your instints and know that you have options. If at that point the hysterectomy becomes the best choice, then you will at least know that it was YOUR CHOICE.

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March 24th 2008
06:18:57 PM
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Kathleen

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The first doctor I went to had delivered my son 2 years prior. I went to him because I was having ALOT of pain and bleeding off and on. I was told it was all in my head and nothing was wrong. Fast forward 2 years. Bleeding heavily daily, pain that was so excruciating. Went to a new doctor. She was wonderful. She went to take a pap smear and found polyps growing out of my cervix and into my vagina!! She couldn't even get the cather tube through the cervix for the biopsy, because the fibroids were covering the inside of my uterus and they were everywhere and huge. 3 days later I was in a specialist office. More tests, and he held my hand and said, Hunny I cannot save your uterus, your not planning on more children, and it has got to come out!

How did this make you feel?  

I was devastated. If that moron had listened to me and ran tests like I had begged in the very beginning, he would have found the fibroids and endometriosis in the very early stages, and I could still be able to have children. I went ahead and had the hysterectomy, and when I woke up and Dr. Brown came to talk to me. He told me that was one of the worst cases he had ever seen. They had to open me up in the non- traditional way up and down, instead of the c-section incision style we thought they were going to do. He told me it took him over an hour to try to get out my uterus the other way, but it was to big to do it like that. One of my fibroids was the size of a melon, the rest were like golfballs, and softballs. Once I healed I did not look pregnant anymore. I did manage to keep the ovaries for 5 more years, until they found a tumor on the left one the size of a grapefruit and they thought it was cancer. I ended up with another surgery, they had to remove both of them as they found a tumor on the other one also. I was 39 years old. Again, I was devastated. It was borderline tumors, and could have turned to cancer at any time I am thankfull that it was not cancer, but I feel like a neutered animal.. I do not think I will ever trust doctors ever again completely. I am tired of being told that pain and things are in my head. I know when something is going wrong with my body, we all just need to stand our ground and find someone who will listen and not blow us off so easily.

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October 28th 2007
11:39:36 AM
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Paul

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Suprising to see a male post here? At the time of this post I am in Iraq with the Army, significant other was having trouble with fibroids at age 27 and has not had children. Both of us want children at some point in our lives. She was being treated with hormones by her Gynosaurus but was still having symptoms. He wasn't really rude or mean in any way, just said there is nothing else but a hysterectomy. Went ahead and scheduled it for 2 days later without even asking if she wanted to go through with it or mentioning other options. Had a colleague offer a "second opinion" who said the same thing.

How did this make you feel?  

Well she was very upset and thought our relationship was basically doomed. Needless to say I was shocked and wasn't very happy about it either considering I was on the other side of the world. I was a paramedic at one point, even though that is nowhere near a physicians level of education, common sense told me that it could not be the only treatment. I started searching the internet and came across this page which led to more research and it really saved the day. She found a Dr now who is against a hysterectomy and will be trying the focused ultrasound treatment first. The website owner doesn't really favor that treatment but it seems pretty safe and if it doesn't cure it 100% then you take the next step. Less than 48 hours away from hysterectomy and losing any chance of fertility. Ladies, fight the battle. Doctors, treat the patient and not the condition/chart. Especially someone young and planning a family sometime in their life. Ridiculous this website even has a reason to exist, but hopefully more and more women/couples find it in time.

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August 22nd 2007
02:31:11 PM
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Anne

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"I can offer you a hysterectomy" - said immediately after I'd stated clearly that I did not want a hysterectomy. Yet the one treatment I didn't want was the only one offered to me.

How did this make you feel?  

Outraged. Disgusted. Thoroughly distrustful of medical professionals in general and gynaecologists in particular.
But there is a happy ending! An MRI scan showed that my uterus was a mere 42% of the size it had been 16 months earlier and only 21% of the size it had been 5 years earlier. A pedunculated fibroid had disappeared altogether. No, I am not yet menopausal. And I noticed a dramatic shrinking of the fibroids just after I'd worked through some emotional traumas dating back to childhood. Yes, there is a connection. Caroline Myss and Dr. Christiane Northrup have written excellent books about this type of subject. Oh, and I do highly recommend a book by Lise Cloutier Steele, entitled "Misinformed Consent".
My very best wishes to all of you.

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May 9th 2007
03:37:01 PM
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Anne

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"You have to have a total hysterectomy. If your ovaries are not removed, they'll turn cancerous. Fill in the hospital admission form. I'll schedule the surgery for next week." And, when I insisted that I wanted to keep my ovaries, the gynae rang up my G.P. and spoke as if I were not in the room, saying, amongst other things, "These women always want to hang on to their little bits and pieces".
Other doctors: "WHY don't you want a hysterectomy?", implying that a hysterectomy was most desirable and there must be something wrong with me for not wanting it.
Most recent gynae (a woman, btw), telling me about the hysterectomy she said I must have: "We make a nice little cuff at the end of the vagina", said with a big, bright smile as if offering me a treat. When I asked about the length of recuperation period, the answer was, "Oh, you'll stay in hospital for only 3 to 5 days."
When I asked if, after leaving hospital, I would need someone to help me with the cooking, housework, etc., she said, "Oh, after 2 or 3 weeks, you'll be able to go for good, long walks."

How did this make you feel?  

Certain that I was being told lies, although I couldn't then prove it. My bull**** detectors were screaming blue murder. I felt angry. Abused. Ripped off. Screwed over.
Have filed a complaint about the most recent gynae and am waiting for the outcome.
Have discovered that the first gynae had been struck off the medical roll for a period of 6 years. I think she should have been struck off the roll permanently, rather than being allowed to railroad women into allowing her to rip out some of their vitals so that she could fatten her wallet.

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November 10th 2006
11:09:52 PM
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Teresa

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During an annual exam, after I said I really didn't want to go on birth control to 'cure' my heavy periods: "Well, don't call me some night from the ER when you are bleeding out!"

How did this make you feel?  

Mad. Not only did I promise I would not call him from the ER, I asked to take my records with me. This was the first and only time I had met this doctor, who had been recommended to me by a friend.

   
September 25th 2006
06:40:59 AM
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Mena

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1st doc-"Your fibroid- 2cm-3cm- is too large for me to surgically remove by laproscopic myomectomy- he did tell me other options- not all". He would choose to do the usual surgery. I found a great surgeon on web in my locale and had a successful laproscopic myomectomy. But another came back... bleeding and clotting are starting and unltrasound verified another fibroid- 2-3 cm is there. As I have been recently been getting treated for adrenal exhaustion- I am wondering if my adrenals are creating more cortisol (due to a homepathic "drug" to strengthen adrenal glands) which is causing another fibroid to grow?

How did this make you feel?  

First doctor was into for $ he could make. 2nd doctor ( both male) is an expert and gave me lots of options. He did an exceptional surgery and I recovered rather quickly. Only mistake-He said "One fibroid is less likely to return then if I had many." I have another one growing so that theory is out the window!

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January 25th 2006
07:19:10 PM
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Sherry

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After being diagnosed with fibroids "Your only viable option is a hysterectomy." When I asked about less invasive methods the doctor made fun of me and repeated :less invasive methods" mockingly. Then she said "when that fibroid grows up over your belly button you'll come running back!" Also I was told I had a fibroid 22cmX14cmX11 (melon size) However, when I ordered my charts and paid $50.00 for them the reports said the largest were 7.5 and 9.5! When I asked if I had the hysterectomy would they be able to leave the ovaries and cervix, she said "well I guess we could" (My ovaries and cervix are perfectly FINE!)

How did this make you feel?  

I felt totally betrayed by the medical profession. They did nothing to tell me about emblization, myomectomy, or the new ultrasound ablation. I spent 18 years in medicine as a pharmaceutical sales rep., and I have never seen such unprofessional behavior just to turn a few bucks!

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August 1st 2005
07:18:59 AM
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Shannon

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I saw the same OB/Gyn for 2 years for heavy bleeding (at least 3 weeks out tof the month) I was on BC pills so she switched them about 6 times with no luck. I then went to Planned Parenthood to get an IUD hoping that the lack of hormones would make it stop. Not much relief with that so after a year I decided to go with a Progesterone IUD which is supposed to lessen bleeding. I expelled this new IUD after 2 months and during the ultrasound they discovered a large fibroid. I followed up with my original OB/Gyn because Planned Parenthood doesn't deal with treatment of fibroids. When I got to her office she did a hystosonogram and said "Yes, there sure is a fibroid there. You haven't been having any bleeding problems have you?"

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Like screaming right at her!!!!!!!!!!!!!I have been dealing with this hell for three years now--constant bleeding, anemia, fatigue, very little sex--and I am only 30 years old with no kids and this doctor can't even take 5 minutes to read my history in my chart!!!!!!!!

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July 14th 2005
09:39:02 AM
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Renee

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I was the table and my female doctor was doing my vaginal ultrasound (moving the rod inside me rather roughly, I might add) and whispering and twittering rudely to her female assistant, who acted more like her junior high best friend than her employee. At one point, the assistant looked at the monitor screen showing the scan of my uterus and exclaimed, "WHAT is THAT!?" The doctor looked at it and said, ominously "Oh, yeah...look at that!" So I started screaming, "What? What?" But they ignored me until I was off the table, when the Dr. said nonchalantly, "Oh, it's just a fibroid. If you can make it to menopause, it will shrink by itself." She's a contender for the Worst Beside Manner of any OB-GYN I've ever had, but unfortunately, I've actually had even worse!

How did this make you feel?  

Horrible! The words "piece of meat" come to mind. I felt even worse when I saw her interact with another patient on the way out, a younger woman who had come to her for fertility treatments. She was pleasant and kind to her young fertilty patients, impatient and scornful of older women with GYN concerns. Needless to say, I never went back to her.

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March 25th 2005
12:55:30 PM
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June 2nd 2003
09:01:48 PM
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Lisa

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I went to the ER because of severe pain and was told by 2 ER doctors that I had a hernia. My doctor confirmed this and sent me to a surgeon who said there was no tumor and no explanation why I had the pain. He suggested I take naproxen. My doctor ordered a vaginal ultrasound and CT scan of my abd. and told me I had a fibrin uterus then she said but you knew that already. Still no reason for the pain. Later and was called with the news of fibroids on my ovaries.

How did this make you feel?  

It made me feel like no one cared.

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May 14th 2003
10:51:05 AM
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Debbie

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You may change your mind about a hysterectomy. Only later to be asked why I was still single. Still 35 - closer to 36 now.
Left this appointment with a surgeon's name for an ablation and a laundry list of vitamins - still no advice.

How did this make you feel?  

Horribly sad This being the third doctor with absurd comments. I felt completely hopeless and gave up my faith in the medical profession.

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May 14th 2003
10:47:23 AM
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Debbie

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You need to meet someone tonight and have children immediately so you can have a hysterecomy. I am 35.

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Great! You have a brother! GOOD GOD!

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May 7th 2003
06:31:35 AM
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DonnaG

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My doctor, who happened to be a man, mentioned "oh, the ultrasound verified that you have "several fibroids". When I asked him what were my options for removing the "several fibroids" he said "oh, you might just have to have a hysterectomy!"

How did this make you feel?  

So what else is new...join the club.....and I've heard them all before....next.

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May 4th 2003
06:35:32 AM
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April 16th 2003
11:31:24 AM
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Dawn

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When I saw the first gyn and I asked her if i could have a myomectomy for the fibroids instead of the hysterectomy she was telling me I needed, SHE told me, "If you were getting married tomorrow and your husband really wanted children, I would try to save your uterus. Otherwise, it has to come out and so do the ovaries and cervix to prevent the POSSIBLITY of developing cancer in them down the road."

How did this make you feel?  

I couldn't understand why my uterus had more value if a man was attached to it. I ended up fighting for seven years to have something other than a hysterectomy for the fibroids but I eventually caved in under all the pressure from the fibroids, friends and the medical community. It has been the worst decision of my life without a doubt!

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